Saturday, October 15, 2011

Why Only Women?

This was sent to me by a man who had been the victim of abuse by his spouse.  I had started this blog for stories of Domestic Violence from women, but there are many men who are abused by women as well.  Just because someone is a man doesn't mean that it can't happen to them.  Thank you for sharing your story with us.


Why only women?

Men are a statistic too, there are plenty of men who have survived physically abuse relationships at the hand of a partner (be it man or woman).  I myself had a physically abusive spouse.  I can't tell you how many times I had called the cops just to get kicked out of my own house because I'm a male, never once did I hit her, but we have kids and it's "better for the mom to be there for them" that's a direct quote from the police officer.   Now we are separated and going through proceedings, it took a video of her battering me for my family to even begin to understand what I was going through.  Countless times I was punched, kicked, clawed, spit on; name it it happened.  Each time it made me feel worthless, I'm a man, I wouldn't stand up for myself, I wouldn't fight back, if I did everyone would think so poorly of me.. trust me men go through just as much as women do in a physically abusive relationship; I talk about these things every other week in counseling, reliving it and reminding myself it wasn't my fault was just the start.

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